{"id":3738,"date":"2021-01-17T12:11:01","date_gmt":"2021-01-17T11:11:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.g-wie-gerry.de\/?p=3738"},"modified":"2026-01-04T18:55:41","modified_gmt":"2026-01-04T17:55:41","slug":"take-my-help-6-besondere-wuffel-ueberall","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/en\/take-my-help-6-besondere-wuffel-ueberall\/","title":{"rendered":"Take my help #6: Special Woofs everywhere"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\nBefore I begin, I want to point out that the terms \u201cdisabled,\u201d \u201cimpaired,\u201d \u201cmental disorder(s),\u201d or similar wording are not meant as insults. However, these terms are essential for this blog. I do not consider \u201cspecial\u201d to be appropriate, because these people have the right to be treated the same as everyone else.\n<\/p>\n\n

\nI thought for a long time about which category this topic belongs in.
\nThe Daily Blog was out \u2014 the topic is too specific.
\n\u201cGerry barks\u201d doesn\u2019t fit either, because I don\u2019t just want to rant, even if I partly will.
\n\u201cFrom my life\u201d doesn\u2019t fit either, because it doesn\u2019t directly concern me.\n<\/p>\n\n

\nIn the end, I chose my Gerry\u2019s Puppies project<\/strong> because this story was brought to me \u2014 and in doing so, it set a small but significant stone rolling.\n<\/p>\n\n

\nAfter my blog post #9<\/strong> someone approached me and told me a story that I first had to reflect on. It\u2019s about people with physical or intellectual disabilities as well as psychological or cognitive impairments.\n<\/p>\n\n

\nI then began collecting more stories.
\nI sought support, was referred onward, spoke in groups, or was allowed to present my concerns myself.
\nNumerous chats, phone calls, and a very large number of voice messages followed. For one week, nearly all of my free time flowed into this topic.\n<\/p>\n\n

\nIn the end, five stories came together:\n<\/p>\n\n

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  • three from people with intellectual impairments<\/li>\n
  • one from a person with cognitive limitations<\/li>\n
  • one from a person with a physical disability<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n

    \nIn addition, another person shared their impressions with me, and I spoke with two people who mediate between disabled and non-disabled pups.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nIn order not to overload either the blog or the BarkCast, I split the cases up. Some appear only here, others only in the BarkCast, and some in both formats.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nI will not name any names \u2014 even though I have permission for almost everything. Those affected will recognize themselves anyway.
    \nEnough of the introduction.
    \nLet\u2019s get started.\n<\/p>\n\n

    General perception<\/h2>\n\n

    \nDuring my time in this circle, one thing became very clear to me:
    \nMany of these people feel alone \u2014 and abandoned.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nRegardless of the type of impairment, they find it difficult to find people who truly understand them. Friendships are often rare, partnerships even rarer. Loneliness is a constant companion.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nThese lines are not meant to evoke pity. They get enough of that already.
    \nWhat is missing is openness, respect, and genuine understanding.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nEspecially people with psychological issues \u2014 for example, those with a \u201cmonster in their head\u201d \u2014 carry many worries and fears with them. Telegram groups or similar spaces are often their first and only point of contact.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nWhat stood out to me and one conversation partner in particular:
    \nMany groups immediately smother negativity.
    \n\u201cDon\u2019t drag the group down.\u201d
    \n\u201cGet professional help.\u201d
    \n\u201cDo this in private.\u201d\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nWhat\u2019s overlooked is that some people simply don\u2019t have any other place.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nOf course, there are topics that don\u2019t belong in groups \u2014 self-harm or suicidal thoughts, for example. But many people are simply exhausted by everyday life and want to vent. In groups where they are supposed to feel safe.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nInstead, often only a picture-perfect world is maintained: fun, sex, stickers.
    \nFor a community that preaches solidarity, this is a frightening contradiction.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nA little attention can be enough to catch someone again.
    \nSometimes it prevents a fall into the abyss.\n<\/p>\n\n

    Those affected<\/h2>\n\n

    Case 1: ADD \u2013 the fear of addressing it<\/h3>\n\n

    \nThis conversation partner asked me to briefly explain the difference between ADD and ADHD.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nADD<\/strong> stands for Attention Deficit Disorder. Without treatment, it is difficult to concentrate. One appears absent, empty. In his case, it occasionally manifests in physical tics or compulsive behaviors.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nADHD<\/strong> is the same \u2014 plus hyperactivity. Restlessness, urge to move, impulsive behavior.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nOut of fear of rejection, he hardly ever talks about his disorder. And when he does, stupid remarks follow.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nADD or ADHD are not moods or phases. Therapies are lengthy, often lifelong, sometimes medication-based. Those affected work on themselves every day.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nBUT (!<\/span>):<\/strong>
    \nThere are also people who listen, ask questions, and offer support. Unfortunately, they are the minority.\n<\/p>\n\n

    Case 2: Only positive experiences<\/h3>\n\n

    \nThis conversation partner uses a wheelchair due to a severe physical impairment. He described the only purely positive case.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nAt events, he is met with respect and helpfulness. This case shows: they do exist \u2014 sincere, considerate people in this community.\n<\/p>\n\n

    Case 3: Cognitive impairments \u2013 an owner who suffers along<\/h3>\n\n

    \nThis owner has multiple limitations: shortness of breath, forgetfulness, occasional hyperventilation.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nBecause of this, he is often misjudged. Yet he is one of the warmest people I know.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nWhat I miss is simple follow-up questions.
    \nNeurodivergence is real \u2014 and yet it is far too often ignored or ridiculed.\n<\/p>\n\n

    Mediators<\/h2>\n\n

    \nThe mediator of this project is a real asset to the community. He creates understanding, defuses conflicts, and helps both those affected and those who cause harm.\n<\/p>\n\n

    Appeals<\/h2>\n\n

    \nTo those affected:<\/strong>
    \nNot every question is an attack. Often it\u2019s an honest offer of help.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nTo everyone:<\/strong>
    \nStop judging so quickly.
    \nApproach people.
    \nAsk questions.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nPity doesn\u2019t help.
    \nAcceptance does.\n<\/p>\n\n

    My closing words<\/h2>\n\n

    \nPhysical disabilities often receive more acceptance than psychological ones. That is wrong.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nBoth are real. Both deserve respect.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nBehind impairments are people with needs, desires, and the same right to belonging, love, and culture as everyone else.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nThank you to everyone who supported this project.\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nYour Gerry<\/strong>\n<\/p>\n\n

    \nPostscript:<\/em>
    \nAre you a \u201cspecial\u201d pup yourself? Get in touch via Telegram at @pup_Morpheus<\/strong>.\n<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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