{"id":11099,"date":"2024-01-04T14:16:16","date_gmt":"2024-01-04T13:16:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/?p=11099"},"modified":"2026-01-04T18:56:16","modified_gmt":"2026-01-04T17:56:16","slug":"ar-3-mein-fetisch-und-ich-sind-nicht-erwuenscht-joshua","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/en\/ar-3-mein-fetisch-und-ich-sind-nicht-erwuenscht-joshua\/","title":{"rendered":"A&amp;R - 3: My fetish and I are not welcome (Joshua)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"11099\" class=\"elementor elementor-11099\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2df914c elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2df914c\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5e9dabe\" data-id=\"5e9dabe\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9bcf1ea elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"9bcf1ea\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"410\" src=\"https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/3-trenner-1024x410.png\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-11101\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/3-trenner-1024x410.png 1024w, https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/3-trenner-300x120.png 300w, https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/3-trenner-768x307.png 768w, https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/3-trenner.png 1500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1c60160 elementor-alert-info elementor-widget elementor-widget-alert\" data-id=\"1c60160\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"alert.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-alert\" role=\"alert\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-alert-title\">Notice<\/span>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-alert-description\">Yes, this text is a bit shorter. But I think it contains everything that is needed for this project.<\/span>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<button type=\"button\" class=\"elementor-alert-dismiss\" aria-label=\"Dismiss this alert.\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span aria-hidden=\"true\">&times;<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/button>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1178b99 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1178b99\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In 2023, I finally dared to take the step of living my fetish openly. Virtually, in various fetish clubs, I initially found connections. But even an apparently strong man like me can be plagued by fears and depression, which makes it difficult for me to meet people in real life.<\/p><p>In this new world, I met many wonderful people\u2014from Stuttgart, Frankfurt, Munich, and even Hamburg. A feeling of freedom and well-being took hold of me like never before.<\/p><p>On platforms like Romeo, I made my fetish visible and found people to exchange ideas with. Everything was going well until that day in August.<\/p><p>A horrifying insult hit me out of nowhere. My appearance was disparaged, and I was told that I had nothing to do with fetish or kinks. The threats escalated to a frightening level, with physical violence being threatened should I show up at an event.<\/p><p>After this message, a wave of fear washed over me. My sense of freedom vanished, security gave way to uncertainty. I felt attacked at my core and feared for my safety. To this day, I have not been able to fully process this experience.<\/p><p>Despite filing a report and notifying the platform, the case was dropped by the police. The officer handling it showed a great deal of effort and empathy, but nevertheless, a sense of emptiness remained.<\/p><p>Today I know that messages should not be overvalued. But this particular message still haunts me. It weighs heavily on me that someone who is part of the fetish scene themselves would want to deny another person that right and threaten violence simply because it does not fit their own ideas.<\/p><p>Click <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/die.joshua\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a> to visit Joshua\u2019s Instagram. (Meta\u2019s T&amp;Cs and Privacy Policy apply)<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b3997f6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b3997f6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"410\" src=\"https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Trenner-Gerry3-1024x410.png\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-11067\" alt=\"Gerrys Erg\u00e4nzung\" srcset=\"https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Trenner-Gerry3-1024x410.png 1024w, https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Trenner-Gerry3-300x120.png 300w, https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Trenner-Gerry3-768x307.png 768w, https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Trenner-Gerry3.png 1500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e31843c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e31843c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>I have also heard this many times during my time in the fetish scene: that you yourself are not wanted because of certain aesthetic expectations, or that your fetish is too alienating for others. The story of this small light also clearly highlights a core problem within our communities. <br \/>We shout for tolerance and recognition, but are often unwilling to offer them ourselves. Isn\u2019t that a contradiction?<\/p><p>Another thing that has gained significant momentum in recent years is threatening people who do not fit one\u2019s own worldview. Often virtually. Increasingly, this is also directed at a person\u2019s real life. This is absolutely unacceptable.<\/p><p>I also understand that the experience with the police was unsatisfying. Unfortunately, they cannot pursue everything, which is of course regrettable. But still:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7db5e25 elementor-alert-info elementor-widget elementor-widget-alert\" data-id=\"7db5e25\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"alert.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-alert\" role=\"alert\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-alert-title\">DO NOT GIVE UP!<\/span>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-alert-description\">If you are threatened\u2014especially if you fear for your physical safety\u2014do not hesitate to file a report. At <a href=\"\/\/online-strafanzeige.de\/ k\u00f6nnt ihr euer Bundesland aussuchen und werdet zu der entsprechenden Formular-Seite der entsprechenden Polizei weitergeleitet, wo ihr dann eine Anzeige erstatten k\u00f6nnt, ohne direkt zu einer Polizei-Station gehen zu m\u00fcssen.\" target=\"_blank\">https:\/\/online-strafanzeige.de\/<\/a> (unpaid promotion), you can select your federal state and will be redirected to the appropriate police form page, where you can file a report without having to go directly to a police station.<\/span>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<button type=\"button\" class=\"elementor-alert-dismiss\" aria-label=\"Dismiss this alert.\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span aria-hidden=\"true\">&times;<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/button>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-273842a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"273842a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Gerry<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c2c6fd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5c2c6fd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"\/en\/ar-0-awareness-respect-gerry\/\">Klicke auf diesen Satz, wenn du deine Geschichte einschicken m\u00f6chtest.<\/a><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-417b14d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"417b14d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/g-wie-gerry.de\/en\/awareness-respect\/\">Zur\u00fcck zur Projekt\u00fcbersicht<\/a><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Anmerkung Ja, dieser Text ist etwas k\u00fcrzer. Aber ich finde, dass er alles hat, was f\u00fcr dieses Projekt ben\u00f6tigt wird. 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